It has been an exhausting last couple of weeks transitioning to newborn life, and being a mother of two! I literally feel like I’m nursing alllll dayyyy long, and that I’m slurring my speech from lack of sleep. But in all honesty, I wouldn’t have life any other way right now. Yeah, it’s not perfect and I have my struggles… But I am so incredibly happy. And it feels so good to say that. It has been a while since I have felt confident about expressing my happiness. I think after hearing about so many poor circumstances of those around me… I felt so guilty about feeling happy, and especially insecure about expressing it. When someone would say, “That trip looked so fun!” It became this terrible habit for me to respond with something pessimistic like, “It was fun… BUT it was a lot of hard work and pretty stressful…”. I had convinced myself that I didn’t deserve to feel happy. And that alone, made me quite miserable! Picking out the bad, instead of the good. But then these quotes landed in my lap, at the perfect timing, and it completely switched my perspective on everything.“We can feel joy regardless of what is happening or not happening in our lives.” and “The joy we feel has little to do with the circumstances of our lives, and everything to do with the focus of our lives.” (You can read the whole talk here.) And then I went to a local conference to support my dear friend Ginger, and she said something so simple that really solidified how I was feeling: “It’s okay to feel happy.”
It all smacked me in the face like BAM! IT’S OKAY TO FEEL HAPPY! Hahaha! Most of you reading this are probably like, “Duhhh…” But honestly, this has been a huge turning point for me… And I couldn’t be happier.
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Love this post! It is ok to feel HAPPY! & Love these precious photos of the girls!
I totally resonate with this! It can be so hard to justify the good when there's so much bad. But that Ginger, she knows what's up!
I love this Hailey, thanks for sharing!
Beautiful post. This is a great reminder for me! 🙂 Thanks for sharing
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Thank you for sharing!!!
Lucy holding gretta is just precious!
-Kate
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Lucy holding gretta is just precious!
-Kate
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totally know what you mean! I wrote some thoughts on this talk as well on my blog if you get bored and wanna read it. 🙂 http://www.perfectlysimplyhappy.blogspot.com
I love this! We only get one life, it's okay to enjoy it without apology.
I really needed to read this post. I found myself in a similar situation as you this past week- where my partner of five years asked me to marry him. He got my ring custom made, and it is perfect. The thought and care he put into the whole thing, not to mention the sole fact that he had just proposed made me incredibly happy. I am ecstatic.
I told my closest friends, and my colleagues found out. My customers would ask me and I would be more than happy to express my joy. But my colleagues started to laugh, or give me side glances and sniggers as the week went on- as more and more regular customers would notice. I started to feel as if I no longer had the right to express my happiness because "the moment had passed".
Thank you for reminding me that it is OK to be happy, and to feel this joy and pride in my fiancé for being so incredibly thoughtful and devoted. You are such a gem.
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Loved reading this Hay! You more than anyone deserves to feel happy, glad you finally undestood that 🙂
Have a lovely day♥
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You are so cute. Loved these thoughts so much.